We were laying on the back deck sunning when she said "tell me something about you I don't know". I paused for a minute and told her I thought she knew everything about me. She asked if I had a secret no one knew. I told her no. Of course this prompted me to ask HER the same question. She replied that there was something no one knew. I asked her to tell me. She said she didn't want to. After a bit of thinking I told her I thought she threw that question out there because SHE had something she wanted to tell me. She said she hadn't thought it thru that far and that was not her reason for asking me. A day later it still bothers me. The person I am going to spend the rest of my life with has something she has never told anyone, and doesn't feel she can tell me. She told me later that night she would tell me at some point. That's like a tease to me, tho. She says it's embarrassing. I reiterated a secret I had told her that is VERY embarrassing for me and asked her how it could be any worse. She was silent. It's not so much WHAT the secret is, but that she doesn't feel comfortable telling me right now. She's always opened up to me, and it's always in her own timing. I respect that. But when I ask myself would I rather she have lied to me and said NO and kept the secret to herself or would I prefer the answer I got which was YES but I will tell you later?? I am hoping by writing it down here I will feel better about her not telling me. I just feel a distance from her because of it. I just cannot imagine NOT being able to tell her everything. She already knows I won't judge her or think any less of her no matter what it is. I will be patient, I always am with her.